What do you like?

August 18, 2018 3 min read 4 Comments


Midlife is one of the most powerful and wonderful transitions as profound as becoming a mother. You get to rebirth yourself and embark on some of the happiest years of your life. Yet this can be a scary time.

You may feel like you've lost touch with what makes you happy.

Many women enter midlife after being immersed in the all-consuming effort of raising children. Suddenly the kids have their own lives with friends, hobbies, sports, and school that take them away from home. If your midlife transition occurs as you're becoming an empty nester, it can feel especially lonely and confusing. You may wonder.......

Now that I have time to do things for me, what will I do?

If your own needs and interests have taken a backseat, and you're not sure what you like anymore, start with a little exploration. Below are three suggestions for getting back in touch with your needs and desires.

1. Take yourself on a date in one or both of the ways described below.

  • If a friend or partner were to plan the perfect date for you, what would it include? Dinner at a nice restaurant? Listening to live music? A movie? Shopping trip? A trip to the mountains to hike and picnic? A day curled up in a lounge chairwith the perfect book? Dream up your perfect day outing or evening on the town with your friend or partner. Get as specific as you can, plan it, and enjoy!
  • Plan a solo outing to feed your spirit and get your creative juices flowing. Choose from spiritual, mental, and physical activities. If you feel like you need to recharge your batteries, a massage, stretch class, or writing in your journal might be perfect. If you're considering doing a project, such as redecorating your house, go to places that will inspire you, where you can evaluate colors and designs. If you've always wanted to learn a new language, take a class.

2. Think back to what you liked at different stages of your life.
Dr. Christiane Northrup wrote that girls give you a glimpse of who they might become between the ages of nine to eleven, when they're old enough to know their minds but aren't yet influenced by societies' expectations before they're encouraged to conform in the teen years. What were your interests and deepest desires at age ten? When you were leaving for college? Before you had children? In your 30's? Now? Write your responses and review them with these questions in mind:

  • How have your interests changed or stayed the same over the years?
  • Is there something you'd like to do today that you haven't done in a long time? Why?
  • Does the girl you were at ten give you any insights into the woman you've become or into aspects of yourself that you'd like to explore?

3. Make a bucket list.
Have you dreamed of cruising the Greek Isles.....running in a marathon.....becoming a yoga instructor or......jumping out of a plane? Create a list of the things you'd like to do and the things that you'd regret not doing at least once. Use your imagination! There are no wrong answers. Choose one of the items to explore or achieve first. What Dreams & Plans Do You Have?

It can be scary and confusing when you go through the midlife transition..... But it doesn't have to be. Dream big and explore new interests. Be playful, have fun, be open to new experiences. Before you know it, you'll know exactly what you like! What Dreams & Plans Do You Have?

4 Responses


March 30, 2020

This is a good exercise. Most days I'm relatively content, but occasionally (like today) I'm antsy, can't settle down to do anything, feel adrift and wish I were anywhere else. Perhaps doing this will clarify my restlessness.


March 30, 2020

I’m doing pretty well with all the suggestions. Bought & read Goddesses Never Age, enjoyed it, very informative. You never mention 80 + year olds, unless I missed it. Hi


March 30, 2020

I’ve been recently diagnosed with estrogen positive breast cancer and have had to get off my bioidentical hormones. I am wondering if your products could help me with how the bioidenticals did, except without the estrogen. What are the ingredients of your products? I don’t see where they’re listed.
Thank you.

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Amata Life

March 30, 2020

Tilly – we get this question a lot in terms of HRT. We're prohibited from commenting on individual medical circumstances, but will do our best to help. In Dr. Northrup's book, The Wisdom of Menopause, there is an entire chapter on herbal approaches to menopause. In addition, there is a section on bioidentical hormones for those who require them. She states in the book that it is not an "either / or" issue, and the choice, as always resides with the individual. Pueraria Mirifica has a characteristic as a potent phytoestrogen, which works very well for many women. The choice as to what to do, and what to take, always resides with the individual, her physician, and what feels right to her. After consulting with your physician, Amata may very well be appropriate.
There is a site about Puresterol at, http://www.puresterolpm.com that will have even more information. This site is maintained by another Company, and we are providing the link as a courtesy to those who want to learn more. The ingredients for each product are on the product page of our site, with a tab mid way down marked Ingredients. Hope this is helpful, and thanks for the questions.

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